A Pocket of Resistance: An amazing family gone

It is difficult to think about my mother without thinking about her two sisters, one brother, and most of all my grandmother, Katherine (Granny) Webster Prichard.  Mother was the last one and the last of the Wynn/Webster/Prichard clan in Lebanon, Tennessee, who have been in Lebanon since the 1700′s. Love you, Mother, Granny, Aunt Evelyn, Aunt Bettye Kate, and Uncle Bill. It is too late tonight to include a photo of my uncle, but i will, i will.

Ode to Three Sisters and Their Mother

The old lady came busting out of the old century;prichard_women-rev01
where she had been
an exquisite china doll of immeasurable beauty;
young men chased her
to allowable limits in the Victorian South
after we turned from reconstruction
while Teddy was roustabouting with Spain
in that little skirmish we often forget.
Remember the Maine.

But Granny came busting out;
fire in her belly, grit in her craw, pluck in her spirit, gleam in her eye;
with the handsome man who won the chase,
taking her and his bloodhounds
to the retired circuit rider’s farm out on the pike
where Granny’s circuit rider father would
preach occasionally without the horse or mule
in the hamlet of Lebanon,
smack dab in the middle of Tennessee
where some bright folks built the square
over a cold water spring
they discovered in “Town Creek”
in yet an earlier century.

…and the children would come around wartime,
dropping among the years of the first big one
we resisted until the Luisitania
took its hit and sank like a rock;
…and the children came,
five in all until one died
as young family members often did
in those pre-antibiotic days.
The handsome blood hound man who chased
criminals through the woods
took his own hit,
a decade after the war.
So the little maelstrom with grit in her craw
packed up the chillun’s and the belongings
making the trek to the groves
of central Florida
for a couple of years to
escape the sinking of the hound man
and the attendant feelings thereof.

In thirty-two, they came back home,
each with some grit in their craw.
Granny, the queen of grit,
went to work,
taking care of those who needed care
outside the family in order
to take care of her own.

…and the children grew up early,
cooking the meals, washing the clothes, cleaning the house,
gathering eggs, milking the cows,  pulling the weeds;
before playing ball,
earning money until
they went to college in the little town,
or went to work,
or both.

The second big war came,
again in a wave of terror,
This time in an atoll’s pristine harbor,
taking hits, sinking to the shallow harbor depths.
Remember the Arizona.

The brother went off to war after marrying
a woman of another religion from down the road,
west a bit, in the big city.
he flew a plane named after his lady Colleen,
returning to the Tennessee hamlet, still
with fire in his belly, grit in his craw, pluck in spirit, gleam in his eye
before leaving for the orange groved paradise
he found on the southern trek several years before.

The preacher man was gone;
The hound man was gone;
The brother was gone;
The three sisters and their mother,
fire in their bellies, grit in their craw, pluck in their spirit, gleam in their eyes,
with their three new men
stared at the world,
staring it down straight in the eye,
earing it down with their labor
until the world cried “uncle,”
admiring their fire and grit and pluck.

There were circles entwined with circles of family;
the circles orbited around the threes sisters and their mother:
all was well.

…and the world rolled on;
Granny finally gave up her pluckish ghost with grit in her craw;
no longer would she braid the waist long hair,
tying the braids atop her head
as she had done for so many years;
the three sisters rallied with
fire in their bellies, grit in their craw, pluck in their spirit, gleam in their eyes.

The grandchildren of the matriarch
spread with the four winds, remembering.
When the circles got together,
the three sisters remained the constant,
demanding the world stay in their orbit,
and the world was warm with laughter and love and
a sense the world was safe
as long as they all inherited
fire in their bellies, grit in their craw, pluck in their spirit; gleam in their eyes.

The world is older;
Granny is gone;
the youngest sister recently joining her,
the oldest failing fast:
The three sisters leaving us slowly with
the fire waning to embers, but still there is
grit in their craw, pluck in their spirit, gleam in their eyes;
staring down the world.

Such a lovely world they have shown us.

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A Pocket of Resistance: Remembering on her birthday

As Blythe pointed out in her post with the wonderful photo of my mother with her great grandson Sam, Estelle Prichard Jewell would have been 97 today, but she went to laugh with her husband in May. i am proud to be her son for many reasons, but right now the one thing that stands out to me today was how she rose to the challenge when the man of her life left her side after more than 75 years last August. She accepted her loss and was elegant, courageous, funny, and maintained a mind with an incredible memory and intellect up until the end. Even now, i will stop in the middle of some late afternoon activity and think “i need to call Mother,” which i did almost daily for those last nine months. It was a high point of my day. Blythe, i too miss her.

Ode to the Last Sister

The scene was quietly stately;estelle 1945-1
The halls were hushed; the talk quiet.
She sat by the casket, a sympathetic smile on her face.
Those paying their respects would stop for a minute,beside the casket and look at the lovely lady in repose,
to pray i think;
then step aside, stoop and shake the sister’s hand,
the last sister I’ve taken to calling her,
condolences they would say in several different ways.
Occasionally, she would see someone dear;
her older husband, but still lithe at ninety-two,
would offer her his arm;
she would shuffle over, have her conversation,
return to her chair.

It is difficult to lose a younger sister,
almost as bad as it would be to lose a child.
With her younger sister in repose,
her older sister in Florida, not quite right
in recollection and failing slowly,
this middle sister donned her coat of family responsibility,
wearing it regally,
playing to the needs of the visitors,
worrying if all was going smoothly,
asking about others,
worrying over not remembering names.

It struck me she was queenly
when the family gathered at her place
she was the center of it all.
As always, her man was circling, getting things done,
but she was the epicenter.
Her hair was white and pretty,
not plastic blue:
she never varied from the natural color;
her eyes still had the gleam of humor:
when one brow was arched,
everyone still scrambled to get out of the way
of whatever was to come next.

Another family member said it best as we struggled with what was going on:
“We are saying good-bye to a different age.”
And so it is.

And the world rolls on, caroming off of what makes sense
to find paths of illogic and darkness
when light and hope should be on the trail.
But the one last sister has her own world,
which she rules
by herself now.
As I think back to the scene,
I recall her moving toward me
(for i am her oldest son)
in a moment of weakness
at the “visitation” as they call it in the South.
As she neared, I could see she didn’t want
to be regal or responsible
for that infinitesimal moment;
I moved to her as a tear or two escaped.
As I held her against my chest,
I could tell the moment had passed,
kissed her on the forehead
and
let her return to her regal civility:
I knew she would be all right.

Sure ‘nuff, she rebounded, took up the gauntlet
doing what she had to do
with that fire and grit and pluck
and ooh, that gleam, that wonderful gleam in her eye.
That is the way in the middle of Tennessee,
or rather has been the way,
and will be the way,
as long as she can keep the fire stoked;
And
there are others, daughters and other women kin
and
other women in other families
who will keep the fire lit,
But
we are saying good-bye to a different age.

This is the first of two posts honoring her. They are poems i wrote about her and her family several years ago. They have been posted here before and are included in A Pocket of Resistance: Selected Poems.

 

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Notes from the Southwest Corner: A (little league) of my own

Published in The Lebanon Democrat Tuesday, July 15, 2014. It truly was a league of my own, at least in my memory. i received a bunch of responses, most of them commenting on names or dates i got wrong. A follow-on column will address that. It was a great experience in that i have connected with quite a number of folks i should have known or who i should have maintained a connection all along.

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SAN DIEGO. – Out here in the Southwest corner, hard copies of The Democrat don’t arrive until five days or later.

I keep up with Lebanon events through the Democrat’s daily email. Admittedly, it is not a thorough read, but I scan for possible ideas for a column. Speaking of buried, I also am at the age where checking obituaries becomes a habit.

Last Wednesday, the email included a photo of a little league second baseman successfully diving to stop a ball from going into the outfield. But that was not what caught my attention. The name on the back of the gold jersey over the number 7 was “Jewell.”

I smiled.

The Kiwanis Club sponsored Lebanon’s Little League debut in 1955. My team that inaugural year was Nokes Sports. Mr. Nokes had a sporting goods store at the top of East Main Street. He was a wonderful supporter of all of the athletic endeavors in Lebanon. Our team was good, but not as good as Lebanon Bank.

Jake Jewell’s photo brought back a flood of memories for me.

One treasure I brought back to the Southwest corner on my last visit was a photo in a file my mother kept of my history as she did for her other two children and all of her grandchildren. The treasure was a photo of that original Nokes Sports Little League team. Sadly, although I remembered the faces, I could not recall all the names.

Since my mother and father were my primary resource for history, names, and places of Lebanon, and now they are off to other things. Realizing the wonderful Facebook page “If you grew up in Lebanon you remember…” might provide some names, I posted the photo and asked for help. So with a little help from my friends, here’s my best guess:

Front row: James Manning (my guess), Winfree Jewell (2) (Bc Yahola’s guess) (she was right), Frank Schlink (3); second row: Randall Ligon (14) (Sara Yahola’s guess); third row: Henry Harding (8), George Summers (5), Jim Jewell (10), Eddie Taylor (11) (although Joy Wahl thinks he looks like John Couch) (she also was right). The coach on the left is Jim “Moon” Andrews (Wyona Midgett Harwell and Annette Manning-Keffer filled in my blank mind as all i could remember was “Moon” (Thanks to this column, Jim Andrews reminded me he was my Babe Ruth League coach and the man pictured above was Woodrow Manning).

I’m not sure there has been a happier time in my life than playing Little League baseball at Baird Park. I know got a few hits, mostly to right field. I remember yelling constantly from center field. I do remember how much fun it was and how great Moon (Woody, not Moon; Moon was also a terrific coach for me) and the other coach was to the players.

Looking at Jake Jewell sprawled on the infield, I also remember the only time I announced a ball game. It was the summer of 1967 and Clyde Harwell, the WCOR sports announcer had another assignment. So Jack Hendrickson, Coleman Walker, and Clyde decided I could cover the Little League playoffs with Lebanon traveling to Donelson.

My father drove us to the field. I plugged in my sound equipment as instructed. As the game began, mist to light rain began to fall. My pencil soon proved useless on the damp scorecard. I floundered. Unable to keep score, I was guessing throughout, probably only getting the players names right. Lebanon was getting beaten badly. It was much worse than the 14-4 defeat Lebanon suffered at Gallatin last Wednesday. Donelson was on its way to 15 runs in the third inning when my father came up to the broadcast bench and notified me I was not on the air. He had gone back to the car to listen on the radio and found music and apologies. Apparently, I had plugged my equipment into the wrong outlet.

He said, “Why don’t we go home.” I readily agreed.

To put a perfect end to a miserable evening, we arrived at the car to find that a foul ball had hit the hood of his new car leaving a dent. Yes, it was the size of a baseball.

I hope to find out if Jake Jewell and his parents are kin to my family. There are only so many Jewells in the area. If I locate those Jewells, I will tell them their son has great form and how he generated good memories and a laugh about my Little League experiences.

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